Last weekend at mum's place, mum was saying that rie makes mama angry everyday.
Because now, I have to step in to discipline her when she misbehave at my mum's place.
And I"m glad my parents will not try to put their nose in when I discipline her liao, but of course, the grandpa, aka my dad will always say "dont scold her, she is a very good girl" or "when she is alone with me, she is very good." blah blah.
There are things that I do in hoping I dont give problem to my dad, but end up I made him upset.
There was a horrible week to start.
Rie's has terrible mood swings. One moment, she can be such an angel and the next moment if you just piss her off, she becomes a devil. And when she is in really bad mood, she starts to scold my dad and piss him off. And she will scold non stop despite my dad trying to sayang her etc.
And with that, rie hurt my dad's feeling and mum would call me the next day telling me dad cant go to bed last night, or dad told her why rie dont like him, or dad would ask mum when will this passing stage (ie. rie disliking a person) goes by?
Because when rie was younger, she didnt want my mum. Everything must be my dad. Even changing of pampers etc. I think dad was the happiest during that period, coz rie only wanted him. Now is the total opposite.
And so, that weekend when we came home, I received a sms fr dad to call him when the kids are sleeping. And boy oh boy that conversation was "hot". To cut long story short, he suggested us to bring rie to temple to pray and "seek" whats wrong with her. Because that day at my mum's place, she kept on scolding dad and when mum told her to stop poking the screen with the pencil, she turned and wanted to poke my mum's eye! Of course, I tried all means to tell him rie skip her afternoon nap, so maybe she's tired, etc. At home she is like normal etc.
And then he said rie dont want go to school, maybe something happen that's why she didnt want to go etc. Haiz...end up, I avoided going to my mum place the other weekend and mum sensed something not right when I smsed her that we are not going over for dinner.
Now that I"m married with kids, I find myself sharing with mum more things. Abt dad, abt hb, abt the kids. Maybe because I hardly have anyone close to understand and to say things that the other person understands too. Sometimes mum calls me in the afternoon to chat or vice versa. And that's when I got to know what's happening at mum's place about dad lor! hoo hoo hoo.
So at this point, I appreciate to have a daughter. At least she can listen to my sorrows next time. For now, she helps defend me or rescue me when hb "attacks" with his pinching claws....
And then, there was once, it was raining. When it rains, dad would sms to say he will help fetch rie home. So that day, I didnt want him to get upset, fearing rie would scold him in the car mah, so I smsed him that I want to let rie take school bus home to our void deck and judge what time she will arrive. Of course he replied okay.
But then he complain BIG time to mum! Said dont know what I'm thinking about, dont want him to fetch rie blah blah blah. Some times when it's not raining and he wants to fetch, I ask him why? and he say when he's free, he fetch lor. What can I say? I told mum, I pay $80 for school bus monthly. If dad fetch her every other day, that $80 how? Oh well...mum being caught in between also so cham at times.
So if I can reject, I will reject dad and end up mum's ears would suffer fr his complains..hee hee.
Anyway, it's been 4 days in a row since I tried letting rie fall asleep on her own!!! Most of the time I have to pretend to sleep in order for the kids to sleep then wake up and do my things when they are sound asleep. Now, I can walk out of the room to do my things when reyes is sleeping and leaving rie alone in the bbcot. Hoo hoo....
As for reyes, sigh....he's very very sticky to me. Maybe because I'm the only woman that he's closes to and that I have been the sole caretaker. But sometimes the stickiness really gets on my nerve, especially when I"m doing something or when I'm busy with rie and rie needs my full attention.
Things like bringing him to the toilet to pee, he also wants me to bring him and not his dad. Showering for him, cleaning him up with his bath towel, carrying him when hb and myself are out shopping, insisting to hold my hands only, insisting that I feed him only, and I have to be the one holding him and letting him hold me when he sits on the toilet bowl to do his business (and smell his "aroma"), purposedly put his legs under the bed or tv console and then yell for me to rescue him. If hb helps him out, he does this stunt again until I go and get him out.
Or going into the room, close the door and sob and yell for me until I get him out.
and many more...sitting down next to him to watch his Thomas Train and other DVDs and since 2 nights back, he wants to share sleeping on my head pillow together just to be close to me!!! I say "go to your bed", he says " Sleep mama bed".
Its' really heart warming when he is so close to me and wants me to be just next to him face to face and watch him sleep. Few weeks back, I had to sleep next to his Mini cooper car and his toy trucks in between us!!! when I push them aside and sleep next to him, he says " excuse me", and then attempt to lay them nicely back next to him, and I have to give them a place on the bed. WT......
So for now, we share. The same blanket, the same head pillow and I've gotta tolerate the hard plastic trucks and cars when he hugs them to sleep, on top of his precious cat and carebear one on each side of his neck. Sometimes in the middle of the night, he will cry for his cars and I have to give it to him. And I"m still hoping and thinking when will he learn to sleep through the night?????? Argh!!!! It's driving me nuts.
I had better enjoy his childhood with me, because I will end up sharing his love with another woman when he grows up.